Most women talk much more than men. We often repeat things to make sure our man actually listened a for might push to see if he will  give a more passionate. Answer that shows real engagement in the conversation.  Getting a mans attention isn’t easy. If this has been your experience ,know that its not an isolated or new experience. Jesus asked Peter the same question three times and repeated a request for Peter to care  for the sheep those who would believe

Jesus used different words for love-isn’t questioning . The first two times he usesd the word agape, meaning to love God with a affectionate love between love between friends.